There are certain tasks, situations, and events that some people are naturally scared of. This includes public speaking, taking and giving criticism, dealing with conflict, and even waking up on time. These moments can be uncomfortable, but they’re also a major requirement for success.
So, if you find yourself stressing out about these everyday obstacles, it’s time to grow up and learn how to overcome your fears.
#1 – Waking Up on Time
As tempting as it is to hit the snooze button several times, you need to learn how to wake up on time. Getting a good start to the day sets you up for success. You have more time to get around in the morning. You don’t have to rush through your morning routine.
You may even find yourself getting to work, or starting your work, a few minutes earlier. You can use this time to think about what needs to get done. Go over your main tasks and prioritize your goals for the day.
#2 – Speaking in Public
The fear of public speaking is a real phobia. In fact, about 74% of people suffer some form of speech anxiety. This is one of the most common obstacles that future entrepreneurs need to overcome. There is a good chance that you’ll need to speak in front of a group of people at some point in your career.
Honestly, a lot of the anxiety related to public speaking comes from a fear of embarrassment or worrying about what people will think. You first need to realize that the people in the room are more worried about themselves. They’re glad that they’re not the one having to speak in front of everyone.
So, if you are like 74% of the workforce, you should learn to overcome this fear. One of the biggest mistakes that people make is writing out their speech. Instead, you should summarize key talking points. These are headlines that help you stay on track. Simply discuss each talking point, one at a time.
#3 – Receiving Criticism
This next one is essential for any entrepreneur. You need to learn how to receive criticism. When a colleague, a customer, or your boss gives you a criticism, you need to take a breath and pause.
Don’t respond. Think about their input. You need to actually think it through and consider whether it has any merit. Only then can you give a response – if a response is expected.
#4 – Giving Criticism
Giving criticism can be just as hard as taking it. No one wants to let someone else down by giving them bad news. But, you’ll just need to toughen up and do it. Though, you can do so in a constructive manner.
When you need to give criticism, you should approach it as a learning opportunity. Let the person know that what they’re doing is not working. Walk them through the reason why and offer some advice to point them in the right direction.
#5 – Eating Your Vegetables
Being reminded to eat your vegetables may not appear connected to your success in the business world, but it really is important. Most people say that they don’t have the time to eat a healthy meal. They order takeout, grab fast food or snack from the vending machine.
If you want to remain productive throughout the day, take your mother’s advice and eat your veggies. Eat a balanced diet. Try to cut back on sugary snacks and include fresh produce in your diet. These whole foods contain vital nutrients that help you maintain energy levels and healthy brain function.
#6 – Get Regular Exercise
You probably guessed that this was next – along with a healthy diet, you should get regular exercise. As uncomfortable as it can be to get on a treadmill or go for a jog, exercise offers the same benefits as eating a healthy diet. You improve your cognitive function and are more likely to have energy for the day.
Also, exercise helps clear your mind. It’s a great stress reliever. If you find yourself unable to leave work at work, go for a jog after you finish up for the day. Clear your head of thoughts from work.
#7 – Putting Down the Phone
Most people own Smartphones and most people cannot put them down. This is a trick that you will need to learn. You can’t keep yourself glued to the phone and expect to get your work done.
Unfortunately, we’re becoming dependent on these phones. 73% of people panic when they misplace their phone. 7% actually feel physically sick when they can’t find their device. Regardless of where you fall on this spectrum, you should turn your phone off while working.
You can always perform a quick check during your breaks. Which brings us to the next uncomfortable task.
#8 – Learn to Take a Break
Taking a break is a skill that some people have trouble learning. When you’re supposed to take a 30-minute lunch break, you should be back and ready to work within 25 minutes.
Breaks are meant to give you a chance to clear your head. Otherwise, you get burnt out and your work suffers. So, give yourself regular breaks, but don’t let them go on for far too long. An extended break is just a form of procrastination.
#9 – Networking
There is more to networking than using Facebook or LinkedIn. There is something called talking in-person. This is where people hold actual conversations in front of each other. Talking to strangers can be just as scary as speaking in public, but it is possible to overcome this fear.
The best way to overcome the fear of networking is to jump right in. Attend a networking event and make it your goal to introduce yourself to at least one stranger. Once you get over this hurdle, it will become easier.
#10 – Learning How to Engage in Small Talk
Small talk can be just as tricky as networking. In fact, you need to learn some small talk skills to successfully network. People often make this skill more complicated than it needs to be. There are two main rules to remember:
Actively listen when someone talks to you. Acknowledge that you understand what they’re saying. You need to respond when they stop talking and stare at you. If you’re not in a good mood, follow your response with a question to turn the conversation back to the other person.
#11 – Realizing Your Limitations
No one is perfect. If you do not already know this, it’s time that someone told you. You have limitations. You cannot do everything on your own.
Do not be afraid to ask for help. When you understand your own weaknesses, you know which tasks will need to be handled by someone else. This gives you more time to work on the tasks that you are good at.
#12 – Handling Conflict
The way that you handle and resolve conflict says a lot about your leadership skills. When you’re in charge of multiple people, you need to be able to resolve conflicts so that your staff can remain productive. This can also be beneficial for resolving conflicts with customers or clients.
The first step in resolving a conflict is to find out why the other person is upset. Discover their motivation for their complaint. Once you know what they want to get out of this interaction, you can choose an appropriate solution.
For example, when a customer says that your product doesn’t work, they likely want a refund or another product. You know what they want and can easily decide on the next step.
#13 – Taking a Compliment
Learning how to take a compliment is easy and many people get it wrong. They make it all about them. In reality, it’s all about the person giving the compliment. They want to let you know that you did a good job. So, thank them and move on. Don’t cut them off or give a self-deprecating response.
#14 – Owning Your Mistakes
You don’t need an excuse for everything. When you make a mistake, you need to own it. After all, mistakes are just learning opportunities. When you do make a mistake, you need to acknowledge it and determine how to solve the problem.
#15 – Learning How to Develop New Habits
You won’t be able to overcome these obstacles if you have trouble developing new habits. In order for an activity or routine to become a habit or to overcome your fears, you need repetition. This means sticking to your plans and following through with your objectives.
If you say that you’re going to speak in public, then speak in public. If you want to stop hitting the snooze button, you just need to force yourself to get up when the alarm goes off. When you repeat these tasks over and over, they become habits or easily acquired skills. Stick with it and don’t give up.
There’s a reason why the most successful people have achieved their success. It’s because they have learned to how to get ahead. You can too. Start by overcoming these 15 unpleasant obstacles.